Communication Similarities Between Members of a Multi-Narcissistic Family and Individuals in a Laboral Group with Moobing Dynamics

Abstract

This paper analyzes the similarities between mobbing, a dynamics that occurs in work environments, and the interrelationships of siblings in a family nucleus (referred to as Alpha generation), in which most of them are narcissistic. In the Mobbing, the head of a work group, in an institution or company, directs the actions of his subordinates to harass and mistreat another subordinate (the victim). In this dynamics, actions of abuse towards the victim are justified based on the constant repetition of phrases that, although not true, express supposedly negative characteristics of the victim (conflicting, irresponsible, undisciplined, etc.). The subordinates who are more active in harassing and mistreating the victim are privileged by the boss and have benefits in their work activities. To justify these benefits this individual is presented with supposed qualities and behaviors that benefit the work of the group. However, in general, neither the actions and qualifications attributed to the victim, nor those attributed to the preferred workers correspond to the reality. In the Alpha generation, the siblings transmitted the fanciful stories that a narcissistic member generated, and they added new elements that reinforced the idea that the individual in question really was the person he/she claimed to be in his/her stories. In this way, the image that he/she wanted to convey, of being an individual of great value, of having suffered a lot and having been a victim in many different situations, seemed to be consistent with the narratives of his/her siblings and were accepted at their environment. Thus, the Alfa generation siblings produced an image of being, each of them, great persons. On the other hand, within their families, they mistreated and harassed their spouses and their children, in particular, to whom questioned their attitudes. These children were labeled as troublesome and resentful individuals. In the relationship between the narcissistic siblings, the exchange of experiences allowed them to refine their methods to have strict control within their families. In particular, in some family nucleus, the process of assigning roles to their children was refined. In some cases, the narcissist had two golden children, and as in the “Mobbing”, one of them was directed to constantly repress a victim. On the other hand, the image of the narcissistic was of an exemplary mother/father in the neighborhood and even beyond it. Under these conditions, the complexity of the internal dynamics of such a family nucleus became unnoticed to the outside, even for near relatives and neighbors. The term “Group Narrative” is introduced in reference to the stories and communication of the Alpha generation siblings as a clue factor that gave most of them an image of very outstanding persons.